Domestic abuse is not limited to physical violence. It can include repeated patterns of abusive behaviour in order to maintain power and control in a relationship. The cross-government definition of domestic violence and abuse recognises this and defines domestic abuse as:
“Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive or threatening behaviour. It can encompass, but is not limited to, the following types of abuse:
The reason I am highlighting this in today’s blog is because I last night attended the launch of my lovely friend Dilys Sillah’s brand new book – ‘Predator or Prince – How to find the Man of your dreams, not your nightmares’.
Dilys is doing a lot of amazing work in the UK and in Ghana to help women who have found themselves victims of all types of abuse and the book itself is about empowering women specifically to build their self-esteem to avoid forging unhealthy relationships.
I had shed a tear or two by the end of the evening. Listening to the accounts of women talk about their experiences of Domestic Violence. All of these stories reminded of a time when I had also felt the fear, aggression and danger of being with someone who had no control of their own personal anger issues and demons. Sadly there are many women at some point in their lives that fall victim to such predators to one degree or another.
Women and Men all around the world are being subjected to some kind of violence in what should be the safest place for them to be. Right in their own home.
Today I woke up feeling empowered to help those that are still unable to remove themselves from such situations. I am asking myself what I can do to empower people, especially women to recognise their worth and to find the courage and strength to remove themselves from these toxic relationships.
Statistically, there is someone not far from you that is going through some type of abuse. They may be a family member, colleague, friend or neighbour. You yourself may be going through some type of abuse whether physical, verbal, financial or emotional. Please know that this is NEVER ok and that it is NEVER deserved.
Sadly there are also many people that condone and support the acts of the perpetrators making the lives of the victims even more difficult.
I ask every person reading this to not be a silent witness and to do what you know is the right thing when you see it. If you or any one you know would like to talk about this in complete confidence please get in touch.
You can get a copy of the book here